Hey there my friend!
We are just one week into 2020 and it’s not surprising that some people are already feeling defeated or overwhelmed by their New Year’s goals and aspirations.
However, the unnecessary pressure of perfection will not contribute to your success in the new year, which is why I want to help you reframe the way you look at resolutions. What if instead we focused on setting your intentions for the year by getting clear on your vision!
I want to share with you what’s worked for me to finally ditch the overwhelm and get results!
In the video above I cover:
- How I approach the new year with grace.
- My “burn the bad” ceremony that I do each year (it’s seriously cathartic!)
- My word for 2020… oh and it’s a bit NAUGHTY but deeply impactful and I’ll explain why I chose it!
Now let’s dive in shall we?
How I Approach The New Year With Grace
Give yourself some grace, and start simplifying what it is that you’re focusing on by asking yourself these three questions:
Here’s a practical way of doing this:
- Reviewing your planner or calendar on your phone for the last 12 months, start reflecting on what you loved doing, what you want to experience more of, and what you don’t want to repeat.
- You can also check out my blog post here where I share how I use my planner to prioritize and get more of the right things done through the year.
Perform my “Burn the Bad” Ceremony
My “Burn The Bad” Ceremony is incredibly powerful and cathartic. What this ceremony allows you to do is to pause and reflect on your accomplishments, celebrate your wins as well as let go of the disappointments so you can move on with a clean slate and make space for what you do want in 2020. !
Here’s how to do it:
- Write down all the things from your annual reflections.
- Write down the things you fell short on or your “mistakes.”
- Write down all your learning experiences.
- And then… burn them!
Now let’s talk about setting your intentions for the new year!
How to Create New Intentions for 2020
As business owners who are also spouses, parents, etc., it is very important to really hone in on how valuable your time is. Becoming more intentional about your non-negotiables, your hard no’s and your “hell yeses” creates the space for more of what you want in 2020.
Here’s how to make that happen:
- If you say you’re going to do something, put it in your calendar, like you would for all your other important appointments. Your non-negotiables are important, so stop canceling on yourself!
- Now that you’ve taken the time to reflect on all the things you said yes to that you should have said no to, you know what you don’t want to repeat this year!
- It’s time to put your needs, goals, and future first so that you can say yes to the things you do want more of in 2020.
Taking the time to create these simple, yet impactful intentions for the year will create the space for you to get more of these experiences.
Here’s the thing, what I’ve personally noticed from coaching thousands of students is that there is one thing that prevents most unsuccessful people from creating sustained success.
The #1 thing you need to stop doing in 2020 to create sustained success that high performers do is …
Stop starting and stopping the same intentions and goals year after year.
If you’re constantly starting and stopping, you are halting your business growth, which means it might be time to ask yourself some hard questions:
- Do you really want this?
- Is this really a hard yes or a hard no?
- Are you doing this because you think this is what you’re “supposed” to do?
- Do you know why you’re even doing the things that you do?
Most people do not take the time to ask themselves what they really want. But, you aren’t most people, which is why it’s time to ask yourself what do you want to say no to? And, how are you going to make this year different than your last?
Next, let’s talk about my word for 2020! It’s a doozy this year…
The reason that I choose Unf*ckwithable as my word for 2020, is that I’m no longer going to put up with other people’s junk.
In other words, I’m going to be unapologetic about:
- Who I allow into my most inner-inner circle.
- The friends I spend time with.
- The intentions I set.
- And, not judging or comparing myself with anyone else.
If you’re scared to put yourself out there, or you’re sick and tired of starting and stopping, know that 2020 is your year to be unapologetically you!
Do the things that make you a little uncomfortable because focusing on your intentions is what will contribute to your success in the new year.
With Grace & Grit, xoxo!
Tiffany aka Coach Glitter